dancing to music you don't like can't be fun, drinking a drink you thought you liked, but realised you don't even less.a place so crowded with people pushing you this way and that while you try to balance in your high heels, quite a task.although that didn't stop me from doing any of the afore last night.[we need to give ourselves a little talking to with reference to making sure we do things we LIKE doing as opposed to things we don't]
that aside. i got further insight as to how a certain group of boys evaluate girls,and by girls i mean future wives. we were out with some friends, some of them guys [not the type that i'd consider spending quality hanging out time with]. one of these is due to be engaged in few weeks.the congratulations that were in order were duely given. then from a person who has not been conditioned to the concept of 'arranged marriage' from early childhood, the questions came, as they surely would have. me-'so why did you choose her?' he-'she was better looking than the others' me-*that's it?, incredulous look* he-*pause* 'she speaks well too' there were more questions of less consequence and then the curiosity subsided. i later heard that the real reason he was marrying the girl, was because she didn't like going out. alright then, so what does that imply he was asked. it meant that she had 'good character' he said. so what did that mean? that the rest of us who did go out [even if occasionally] did not? there are exceptions apparently.
people and their mindsets come in all shapes and sizes. i've always known that.
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Hi Kan,
I wonder as to why u r not able to get all that I say or comment on your blog. It always seems that you get opposite to what I want to say or maybe the words I use make u think otherwise. Hmmmmm....
Nxt I will try to work on muh words to make sure you dont take it in a wrong sense. Take care girl..
Peace,
Firacub.
We've always known that these kind of people exist, it's a little two faced, but that's the way it is.
The way i see it, it's a little sad when a person who likes going out marries someone who doesn't (for whatever reason) cause they're going to frustrate each other.
o well u really cant expect the world to b full of angels neways
Well said Devile
My wife is the best dance partner a boy can ask for! We dance to anything!! Even the stuff we hate, if you move fast enough you won't even hear it!!!
It is probably a good thing that all people do not send out their thoughts all the time for everyone else to hear.
Keep dancing.
We judge too soon....
When we judge too soon
SHARIKA MUTHU
Episode 1 A new neighbour moves into the house next door. Wishing to be friendly, you rush over to her place, carrying a home-baked cake and your best bottle of wine. And what about the reception you get? She gratefully accepts the food, but hardly invites you in.
Aren’t you upset beyond consolation and wonder why your friendliness was not returned? The next thing you know, you decide to “never visit her again.” Sooner than you know it, she invites you over for tea and plies you with her home-made cookies! Confused?
Episode 2 A new boy joins your class at college. He is good-looking, bright and plays on the basketball team. You expect he will make hordes of friends – but even after a week he doesn’t have a single pal. In fact, you notice that he sits at the back of the class, never chats with anyone and usually eats his lunch alone.
So what do you make of him? Extremely arrogant, isn’t he? Doesn’t even think anyone is worth talking to. So why should you bother to say hello?
Episode 3 At work, you notice that your new colleague mostly dresses in miniskirts and tight tops. Before you even make her acquaintance, you decide that she's not fit to talk to because you don't 'approve' of her dress code.
nice episodes :)
The bottom-line is, as long as you can live beyond what others will think of you, then you truly are your own King. Whatever you do depends on what you really wanna do, and not what you gotta do so that others will accept you.
And apart from this, if you can also see people by what they really are inside and not by the way they dress, or the crowd they hang out with, you have reached your pinnacle of self-actualisation.
And btw, i am definitely gonna marry a party animal. As long as we love each other, other issues like "she can cook the softest rotis" or "she will stay at home whole day washing ur dirty undees" do not matter at all.
But then, we live in different cultures altogether.
:) although i realise that this is not an issue. i think i would try to make the softest rotis [i'm laughing at myself already] and i shudder to think it now, but i have a feeling i'm even going to be washing dirty undies :)
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